You know you want to play your cards right in the dating game. But when to call after a first date to make a good impression?
There are so many views on this, but is there really a right answer?
So when to call after the first date?
Love, like both individuals, is unique and different. What works for one person may not work for another.
But when it comes to calling after a date, there’s little you can do to make it go wrong.
If you’ve just walked the girl to her door and come home after a perfect date, chances are you’re on a cloud nine.
Maybe you are holding your phone and you want to be able to talk to it.
But at the same time, you might have heard the old dating rule, wait two days before calling.
If you want a short answer on when to call, the best advice for you is to call when you feel like it.
When should a guy call?
Most guys put a lot more emphasis on when to call than it really deserves.
You obviously had a great date with this girl, or you wouldn’t worry about when is the right time to call.
Remember, women have feelings too. You can’t play with the book and wait a few days even if you really miss this woman and want to talk to her. It’s justifiable for women to play hard, because men like chase.
But women don’t like to wait and they don’t like an insecure chase. The first moments of excitement could turn into frustration and even anger.
If you love this girl and had a great time with her, end the day well and let her know that you had a wonderful time and would like to see her again soon. Be chivalrous and vaguely specific about contacting her soon. “I’ll see you soon…” or “I’ll talk to you soon…” are cheerful and yet warm ways to end the conversation.
And about when you should call her back, here’s what you need to keep in mind.
# 1 Call her on the same night
If you’ve had one of the best times of your life and you know your significant other had a special time, too, there’s nothing wrong with calling it the night itself.
But how sure are you that she is already falling for you? Did she say something like “I can’t wait to meet you again” or a “I think I miss you already”
If you’re not quite sure if she had a good time with you, but you really want to tell her that you had a good time, don’t call yet.
Send her a line thanking her for a good date.
By doing this, you open the door to a conversation. If she wants to talk to you, you can take the clue from her quick responses.
Texting her after you get home or later that night lets her know she’s made an impression on you. You can also make it obvious that you are touched by her, and yet you are giving her enough space by not calling her and texting her instead.
What starts out as a text can then cause one of you to call the other person on the same night and have a long, romantic late-night chat, and even a date in the next couple of days. Girls love a guy who comes back in touch that night. It takes away their uncertainty and makes them more muscular and happy. But again, it also makes you feel like it’s too easy to get.
Text her at first, and while she isn’t overly enthusiastic in her response or doesn’t send a message to call you, you’ve played the chivalrous card by thanking her for a good date. You haven’t lost anything here. [Read: How to be chivalrous ]
Any woman would appreciate a man who can strike up a conversation that evening. But that only works in your favor if she is also hit by you.
# 2 Call her the next day
If you’ve had a perfect date, texting on the same day may be the best solution. But if you are not very sure about her feelings towards you then maybe you could play it safe by waiting for a day to call her.
If you call her the next night, it tells her you’ve been thinking about her, which is always a happy sign.
She may have had her insecurities overnight, but your calling can conquer her insecurities and rekindle happy thoughts all over again. By calling her the next day, you can play it safe and let her know you love her, but you are not yet struck by her and need more time to take the plunge.
# 3 Call her after two days
A guy who calls a girl after two days is playing on the book. Everyone knows the unwritten rule of waiting two days before calling after a date.
So you like it? Are you in love with her? She would have no idea.
She would also have no idea if you are cool or if you are really interested in her.
Waiting a few days before calling can be sure, there is also a great chance that her insecurities have increased so much that she may even be bored with you.
Thinking from a girl’s perspective, she wouldn’t want to think too much about the date, especially if you made her wait two days.
Even if she’s excited, her fear of rejection or not hearing you can numb the excitement.
And if she’s excited to have your call, she’ll definitely be playing hard for a while.
You’ve been playing hard to make her heart beat faster for two whole days, mate, and now it’s cool down. [Read: What to talk about on a date ]
# 4 Call her after a week
If you’ve kept the girl on hot coals for a week, it’s obvious that you don’t really care about her or even aren’t very impressed with her. You know it and she understood it through your silence.
And even if you call and have no real reason for the delayed callback, she’ll think you’re a jerk. If you love her and can’t wait to see her again, don’t wait another week to call. And if you don’t want to date her, tell her when you let her down.
Dropping signs of your lack of interest by calling her a week later will only make her look down on her.
When to call after a first date?
If you ask me, I suggest two options for you. Send her a message that evening or call her the next day.
If you think you’ve met your soul mate on a date, do you really need to wait a week because someone told you? Strike when the iron is hot, especially when the two of you are attracted to each other. In any case, a text only reveals your concern and your chivalry.
But if you’re not sure how she feels for you, call the next night and have a conversation. Chances are, you’ll know what’s on her mind by then.
So when should a guy call after a date? Now, you know the old rules, and you know your heart. Text or make that call, you can never go wrong as long as you keep her feelings in mind.