Every man wonders how to understand women at one time or another. Almost as many have given up. Make no mistake about it, though, here’s how to figure out the woman – it’s not rocket science.
Why is it so hard to reason with a woman of common sense? Why doesn’t the girl realize that you would go perfectly together?
If you’ve ever asked yourself these kinds of questions, you’re not alone. Most guys find women fickle, unreliable, irrational. They struggle to connect with the opposite sex.
Guys who will understand women and their emotions are rare. They find it easy to connect with moms, sisters, girlfriends. And if that wasn’t enough to make her jealous, they get a lot of female attention.
If you are interested in becoming one of those guys, here are tips on how to understand women in your life, and the women you meet when you go to the bars and clubs.
Understand that all women are different
The idea that girls think differently is weird, rude, and offensive to a lot of people. We live in a politically correct society where men and women are meant to be the same. Recent research, however, shows the opposite.
The first thing you need to understand in order to learn to understand women is that not all women are the same. Of course, there are some things that many of them have in common, but every woman is an individual. If you try to judge a woman by the behavior of another, you’re going to have a hard time. If you want to have a good time, it is important to try to understand each woman in her own way.
Women are much more in tune with their emotions. They make decisions based on what they are feeling right now and analyze them later.
This is why a woman can go to your house, have sex with you all night, and panic in the morning. It also shows why girls cheat more than boys. They are more susceptible to making bad decisions based on emotions.
Do you see where the age-old idea that women are fickle comes from? They think what they are doing is right at some point. If you are a man, and thinking rationally, it can be frustrating as hell.
But learn to understand the woman and her emotions and you will find that it is very easy to connect with them.
Understand that women are not men
Another thing you need to understand is that you won’t be able to understand the women you are interested in the same way you understand the men you are friends with. Men and women are different creatures – socially, biologically, and in other ways. If you try to interact with her like she’s a man in a dress, it’s not going to work for you and you’re never going to understand her.
Men tend to think analytically. In discussions, we use rational arguments. We are drawn to women with specific definable traits such as pretty eyes and nice butts. The things we enjoy.
Pay attention to her words
So how are you going to figure it out? Well the first path to understanding women is to listen to what she has to say. Too often men talk and wait their turn to speak rather than really listening. What you need to do to understand it is pay attention to it. Not only does she tell you a lot about herself, but the things she chooses to talk about, tell you a lot about her.
Pay attention to her actions
It’s an old but very true expression: Actions speak louder than words. If you really want to understand who a woman is rather than who she wants you to think she is, you need to watch what she does. At any point there is a difference between the things she says and the things she does, you have to trust her actions more than her words.
Ask her questions
And, of course, asking her a lot of questions is one of the best ways to understand her. Anytime you’re having trouble understanding something about her, this is the time to ask her questions. Not just because you’re confused about something she’s already said or done. It may just be an area of her life that you want to better understand and find out more about.
Reason with women
I said earlier that women make emotional decisions “right now” and analyze them later. For her, logic is the second thing after feelings.
So if a girl wants to date an alcoholic who is twice her age to date, she is going to justify herself with delusional statements, and with common sense. “He’s nice and he doesn’t drink in the morning. “” I don’t care about the money, I love it.”
It is futile to rely on rational arguments with women. The golden rule is simple:
Change her feelings, not her thoughts
Men fail to connect with women because they focus on what is said instead of what is felt. The secret to reasoning with women lies in dealing with their emotions.
If you want to attract a girl, don’t brag about how awesome you are – just make her feel good by being fun and confident.
Don’t argue with an angry woman (which is a big disaster), let her cool down or cheer her up with actions.
When your girlfriend’s madness is heading towards you, remind her of the positive emotions that you enjoyed together.
A warm hug is the best way to connect with an angry boss.
If you want something from a woman, don’t worry about explaining yourself logically. Find ways to do “something” tempting for her too.
Focus primarily on changing negative emotions into positive thoughts.
Also, don’t forget that other people – and girls in particular – are listening to your feelings. If you want the women you want, express your positive emotions openly. Good ailments are infectious – and sexy.
If you are a man, logical thinking is a huge advantage in most scenarios. The only exception is struggling with women.
Try to rationally understand the girls. You will be unable to communicate with them and problem solving will always be a chore.