Learn how to talk to a girl like a real carefree conversation partner, no matter where you are. All you need is just 10 steps to work your magic and wow her!
Have you ever walked into a room and instantly been struck by a beauty in the room?
Have you ever wondered how to talk to a girl you admire at a time like this?
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One of the biggest hurdles guys face is taking the first step.
Talking to a girl is easy if you are introduced to her.
But when you have to walk up to a girl you’ve never spoken to before, and you want to start a conversation, your heart may start to beat faster than a hummingbird on the heat.
Take these ten steps one by one and before you know it, knowing how to talk to a girl you love will be as easy as taking a walk in the garden.
What do you need to know?
You are interested in talking to beautiful girls, aren’t you?
And just like you, girls are interested in talking to handsome guys too.
So really, there is nothing to fear here! Remember the biggest rule of thumb when it comes to knowing how to talk to a girl, you can’t cut corners.
Just like you need to learn to walk before you can run, you need to learn how to warm her up before you talk to her.
# 1 Let her know that you are interested in her.
Talking to a girl isn’t as easy as walking up to any girl and inviting her on a date. It might work in movies, but in all likelihood it won’t work in real life. A girl needs to know that you are interested in her in order to rate you.
If you walk towards a girl who doesn’t have a clue that you are approaching her, you may just end up shocking her. And she’s going to say the first thing her mother taught her to say to intruders. ” Go away!”
# 2 Play the gaze game.
Once she knows you exist, take the game to a higher level. Look at her from time to time to arouse her curiosity. Does she look at you from time to time?
Is she smiling to herself when you catch her gaze? Are her friends looking at you and smiling? Watch out for happy signs.
There’s no point in trying to figure out how to talk to a girl if all she does is give you a dirty look or doesn’t care if you look at her.
Asking a girl out in such cases usually ends up being a disaster and for a novice’s confidence it is best to be avoided.
# 3 Don’t flirt with her.
Using flirting phrases can be smart and arrogant, but flirting phrases may not work. The best way to know when and how to talk to a girl is to avoid flirtatious phrases and use ad hoc phrases instead!
If it’s a lecture or a gallery and she’s walking over to a table, stand next to her and say something like “do you know how long it took to do this?” Or something so casual.
Likewise, whether it’s in the office, a park or even a bar, look around and ask her a question that is relevant to something around her.
#4 But remember to keep it vague.
A vague question causes a girl to be surprised for a few seconds, she will eventually answer you. [Read: How to tell if a girl likes you for more examples and tips]
#5 Don’t go too hard.
Now it works best right after you talk to her, after asking her a very vague question. After she answers, the two of you are in conversation mode, but not really friends.
She would have answered your question and looked away. But she obviously knows you’re attracted to her, so she won’t really try to keep the conversation going. Or can just smile and look away.
You can do one of two things, introduce yourself or continue playing the game and introduce yourself after asking a few more questions. Extending the game can make it so much more exciting for both of you.
But of course, she might just get out of the conversation if she’s at a bar counter waiting for a drink. If you show up, go ahead and introduce yourself.
And be frank, tell her that you have a confession to make, that you’ve been waiting to meet her for a long time or all evening.
She obviously knows you’ve been looking at her, so why pretend you’re picking her up. Telling her the truth can flatter her instead of making her feel like she is being flirted with. [Read: 15 very obvious signs of flirtation between a guy and a girl]
# 5 Give her some space. When talking to a girl, make sure she knows she can go when she wants. Don’t get her stuck in awkward places like outside the ladies room, or a quiet hallway.
If you can do that, you can even talk to a girl when she’s out with her friends. Always remember, if she feels like she has space, she is going to be much more comfortable talking to you.
But again, it’s tricky. If you give a girl too much space, you won’t be able to build a connection and she may just end up going elsewhere. But as long as you’ve followed the first four steps correctly, she’s not going to crash you and go.
After all, if you’ve warmed her up, she’s going to want to talk to you too!
As long as you’ve used these first four steps on how to talk to a girl, you’ll be able to talk to a girl and impress her, without really making it appear that you’re trying to flirt with her. [Read: 12 things a girl does when she already loves you]
We’re only halfway through the guide on how to talk to a girl and be polite at the same time. These tips may be enough to impress a girl and start a conversation with her.
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