Afraid of not ending up just being a friend of the girl you love? Use these tips on how to avoid the friend zone if you want to get into her pants.
The friend zone is a difficult place to fall into.
You might be trying hard to get close to a girl, close enough to tell her you love her, but one fine day she turns around and tells you that you are such a great friend, or worse, you are only like a brother to her.
Has this ever happened to you?
I hope not.
Guys end up falling into the friend zone almost all the time.
It is frustrating and humiliating, and at times, inevitable.
You can really be close to a girl with all hopes of getting into her pants, but somewhere along the way you took a few detours that got you straight into the friend zone. [Read: How to tell a girl you love her without losing her ]
What is a friend zone?
A friend zone is a happy place for a girl. It’s a place where she and a guy can sit together and talk about everything and be really, really nice to each other.
For a guy, a friend zone is the worst place to be, especially when he likes the girl who behaves like a friend.
In a friend zone, the two involved friends of the opposite sex are just friends and nothing more. They do not project sexual interest towards each other and behave in a totally platonic manner.
But can a guy be friends with a girl he finds sexually attractive? Or of course not. He may try to be a friend with the hopes of getting an occasional hug or a warm breast hug often, but he’s always going to be just a friend as she goes back to all the other guys in the phone book.
How do guys end up falling into the friend zone?
A guy falls into a friend zone for very obvious reasons. He behaves like a friend. And he never lets the young girl know that he has more than sympathetic intentions in her mind.
And soon enough, the girl loses all consciousness that this guy has a toy downstairs. And he just becomes another asexual thing that she can hang out with all the time like a platonic friend.
So why do some guys end up as friends instead of boyfriends or sex buddies?
# 1 They get too close. Being too close to a girl on platonic patterns doesn’t help. You can assume this is the best way for a girl to get to know you better. She will certainly get to know you better, but only as a friend.
# 2 No sexual chemistry. If a guy likes a girl, he has to make it subtly obvious that he’s sexually interested in her. If a guy behaves like a breeze and a doormat, no girl will even feel a tingle of sexual chemistry.
# 3 The girl is not attracted to the guy. It sucks, but it’s the most common scenario. The guy probably has goosebumps, embarrassed, or just not good enough to be her boyfriend. [Read: The 10 biggest date failures for girls ]
# 4 The guy thinks she’s too good for him. Sometimes a guy can really believe that the girl he loves is too good for him. And instead of fighting for her, he covets her secretly, but gives up pursuing her. Could you live with yourself, just being the friend of a sexy young girl who meets all the other guys but you don’t?
# 5 He plays the real friend card. It works in movies all the time. The girl has a best friend who is always there for her. She goes ahead and meets every single guy in the world, and finally at the end of the movie she sees her true love in the form of her best friend. How touching! And that’s why they call it the movies. In real life, you can’t become a girl’s boyfriend while behaving like a best friend.
How to avoid entering the friend zone?
It’s really easy to avoid the friend zone. All you need to do is show the girl that you are really interested in her. Use these simple tips to get the point across and make her want you while you’re at it.
# 1 Be a friend without behaving like your other friends.
Do not talk stupid things for hours or spend time talking about your problems in life. Talk about the places she visits, the movies she watches, and her plans for the weekend. Talk about date and she’ll detect the chemistry in the air. [Read: What you can talk about on a date with a girl ]
# 2 Try to talk to her when she is alone.
If her other friends are there, only talk to her if you have to, or just avoid her. You can’t really touch a girl when she’s surrounded by a crowd of friends.
But when you find her alone, make sure you turn on your charm and impress her. Do you see her alone? Chat with her.
And if a friend of hers comes by, growl in a funny way and say something like “just when I thought I was going to have some time alone with you, this guy pops up out of nowhere!” Then smile. She will be confused and wonder if you are being serious or just joking. [Read: Clever ways to charm a young girl and make her love you ]
But she’s going to have the indication that you enjoy spending time alone with her. Make sure to make it obvious that you enjoy spending time with her in any way you can, but don’t ask or tell her that you love her just yet.
# 3 Compliment her when she deserves it.
Flatter her pants. If she looks nice, tell her she looks stunning. If you see a hint of cleavage and she grabs her gaze, just for a laugh, apologize and tell her you couldn’t resist. Add some funny sexual remarks and you’ll never be in the friend zone. [Read: How to compliment a girl sexually and make her blush ]
# 4 Touch her and treat her like your girlfriend.
But the of respectfully. Join hands as you walk through the doors to the street and open the door for her when there are only two of you. Make her feel like a queen, and she’ll love the attention. But when her friends are around, don’t give her preferential treatment. Let her know that you are special to her only when the two of you are.
# 5 Make her feel special and exclusive.
Give her a little personal gift, but tell her to keep it a secret. When you create secrets within yourself, you build the sexual chemistry and suspense that leads to romance.
# 6 Ask her and change the subject.
When you talk to her for a while, ask her out for lunch or coffee. Watch how she reacts. But a second later, change the subject. Don’t wait for her to answer you. It’s going to sound like a joke, but it’s still going to make her wonder if you really want to date her. Don’t make it awkward by waiting a while before saying something else. Keep it simple, keep it funny and still reveal all the dirty thoughts in your mind, and change the subject immediately. [Read: How to text a friend at the right time and make her fall in love with you ]