Do you want to talk to a girl you don’t know? Here are 5 tips on how to approach a girl that will definitely help you make a great first impression.
Approaching a girl you’ve never spoken to is like taking a bath in ice water.
It makes you nervous.
Your heart starts to beat faster than you can count.
And your stomach thumbs are closer to your tongue every step of the way.
But like a man, knowing how to approach a girl is one of the most important things to know in the world of dating.
Now I’m not going to make it harder than you find it already.
Yes, talking to a girl you don’t know isn’t easy.
But then again, if you know how to do it, you will realize how easy the whole game can be. [Read: 12 ways to get a girl’s attention wherever you are ]
How to approach a girl you don’t know
I’ll teach you to keep it simple, and help you win her heart before you even say “hello”.
Here’s the one piece of advice, and you need to remember it for the rest of your love life.
Always let the girl know that you want to talk to her even before you talk to her. Don’t make the mistake of approaching a girl who doesn’t pay attention to you.
It hardly ever works unless you are a smooth talker with your tongue hanging out.
If you’re a Joe who wants to turn into a magnet, just follow these steps and you’ll gain her attention before you finish your drink!
How to Approach a Girl – Get her Attention
You have to let the girl know that you are going to approach her. So grab her attention to start by following these steps.
# 1 Take a look at her.
Look at her once in a while just to let her know you’re trying to get her attention. Be sneaky and discreet, and always try to get her attention. You wake up her curiosity and force her to look at you every now and then to see if you are still looking at her. [Read: 10 tips for flirting with eye contact that always work ]
# 2 Eye contact.
Whenever she looks at you, look at her and immediately look away. Keep looking every now and then, and every now and then lock your gaze on her for a tiny fraction of a second and watch again.
By doing this, you are already building sexual attraction. But if she doesn’t do the same, she probably isn’t interested in you.
# 3 Appear awkward.
If you are with your friends, watch every now and then, but pretend you are distracted and unable to concentrate on the conversation you are having with your friends. By doing this, you make her see that she is on your mind and you are too distracted to focus on your friends. It’s subtle flattery!
# 4 Smile at her.
Eye contact changes from time to time, once or twice every minute and no more than that, and when you’re feeling brave enough, flash a little smile on the corner of your lips for a second, and make sure that she notices your smile.
Don’t give her a big smile though. a big mischievous smile at this point will scare any girl.
These moves are for building connection and letting her know that you are interested in her. And at the same time, it will also help you figure out if she too is really interested in you.
If she is responding to your gestures, it is a sign that she is interested in you.
But if she starts ignoring you at any point, she probably isn’t interested in you, and you need to try your luck elsewhere. [Read: A step by step guide on how to ask a girl on a date if you are a shy guy ]
How to start talking to the girl
Now that you’ve built the attraction and the atmosphere, all you need to do is walk over to her and tell her something. Use these tips to get closer to her and start the right conversation.
# 1 Wait for now.
Sometimes all you need to do is wait for the girl to give you a chance to talk to her. If she is really interested in you and wants to talk to you, she had created enough opportunities for you to walk towards her.
She could do this by walking to the ladies’ room, walking away from her friends, answering a phone call, or even just smiling at you and leaving room.
It’s always easier to talk to a girl when she wants to be herself. There are no distractions from her friends or difficult times, as she is already waiting for your approach. [Read: What you can say to a girl while talking to her for the first time ]
# 2 Gesture.
Use the right gestures to get her attention. It’s tricky, but as long as you get her attention, it’s still going to work as long as you confidently do it.
Look towards her, and smile. Abrupt movement with your neck a bit after locking your eyes with her, and use your eyes to wave her towards the bar counter or the exit.
Even if she doesn’t, you can walk to the place yourself, and she will know what you mean.
Not all girls will appreciate your gestures towards them and asking her to walk towards you, but if you’ve built chemistry before, she would be more than happy to walk away from her friends and give you a chance to talk to her.
# 3 The girl group.
Walk up to her with your gaze fixed on her confidence. Walk to the right of the herd, but look in front of her and only her. Look at anyone else, and envious girlfriends will pounce on you with sarcastic remarks.
” Hey… I don’t really want to interrupt you girls, but can I talk to you for a minute?” I won’t be able to forgive myself if I leave this place without knowing you… ”
Use a phrase you want and it will work as long as you say it right, but don’t forget to make her feel special by saying something that reveals how much you want to get to know her.
And unless her friends seem to take your side by pushing her towards you or smiling broadly, avoid looking at them altogether. [Read: 15 things girls look for in a man to fall for him ]
# 4 Buy her a drink.
This is something that can work very well in a bar, as long as you’ve already built eye contact and piqued her interest. Buy her the same drink, she must already have one and ask the waiter to offer it to her. The waiter will probably drop a cheesy and big message like ” the gentleman sitting over there would like to offer you that drink … “
When she accepts the drink and turns to you with a smile, that’s your cue. Don’t wait any longer or she’ll think you’re a coward. But if you buy her a drink without having building the connection first, you just have to come out like a creepy man. [Read: 10 big date failures for girls ]
# 5 A duo.
If there are only two girls, walk towards them while looking at the girl you like. If the girl is interested in you too, her friend will slip away quietly with an excuse. But even if the friend decides to stay, just introduce yourself and say something similar to the line used in # 3.
But this time understand that the girl’s friend is in the conversation and you will have to make sure that she feels good about herself. But don’t forget to keep the focus on the girl you like!
Let the conversation move with the mind and it will definitely do you good. But if you want to make sure it works all the time, build tension and mystery first with your looks and your eye contact. You will always end up impressing the girl before you even approach her. [Read: How to tell if a girl likes you in 12 subtle ways ]
Follow these tips on how to approach a girl you don’t know and with a few attempts, you will have no trouble approaching any girl you like and impressing her within minutes of making eye contact with her!