Among all the dating dilemmas, this one is one difficult thing to deal with. So, do you like a friend’s girlfriend or does she like you?
You have a friend.
And one fine day, he meets the girl of his dreams and falls in love.
A few weeks later, he presents her to you. You are happy for him.
But you totally fall in love with his girlfriend.
Have you ever been there?
Almost all the guys have it.
On the one hand, you are happy for your friend. He found a nice catch.
But on the other hand, you are jealous.
His girlfriend is the sexiest thing you have ever seen and you can’t stop fantasizing about her or hoping that she can be with you instead of your friend.
Do you like a friend’s girlfriend?
When you’re a guy, it’s easy to be instantly attracted to a girl you meet, even if she’s your friend’s girlfriend.
While girls take a while to build the whole bond, guys aren’t interested. You love a girl and you want her.
But when you love a friend’s new girlfriend or even an old one, you are definitely on shaky ground. So what do you do when you find yourself in such a dilemma?
There are just two things you can do. Steal the girl. Or admire her from afar and possibly forget it. [Read: The best way to attract a girl with a boyfriend]
How do you know your friend?
First, most people will tell you to let go of that thought. But each circumstance is different. And sometimes, dating your friend’s girlfriend can turn out to be the best thing for everyone involved. But it’s not always the case.
Here is the easy way to find out for yourself.
To begin with, how well do you know this friend? Is he really a good buddy or someone you just know by the way? If he’s a really good friend, stop there. You don’t steal a girl from a best buddy no matter the bad things. In the worst case scenario, you go out with a friend’s girlfriend just a few months after she broke up. But it doesn’t always end well either.
But if you don’t know this guy very well or if he’s not a great friend, you can still think about him.
Can you imagine it and yet find someone else?
She might be hot and all you want to do is hold her hands or take a look at her cleavage. You might think it’s real love, but it’s almost always infatuation. You can still pass if you want, remember that. [Read: The sneaky ways to look at a girl’s cleavage]
Try going out with a friend or someone you find attractive. It’s easier, safer, and won’t break any heart. [Read: Stages of love for men]
Is she happy with your friend?
You may secretly think that your friend is a loser and the luckiest gun for having such a good daughter in every way. And you may also think that she is unhappy in the relationship.
But is she really unhappy in the relationship? Did she tell you herself? If she did, she’ll probably like you too. Why on earth would a girl tell her boyfriend’s friend that she’s unhappy for some other reason? In such cases, you may feel like a knight in shining armor doing your friend’s girlfriend a favor by saving the damsel in distress from a bad relationship. But you really are not.
You only create more confusion and complications by flirting with her and guiding her. And don’t forget this: you dig your own grave warming up in front of a good friend’s girlfriend.
Are you having a good time with her?
Does your friend’s girlfriend spend a lot of time with you or make an effort to talk to you?
Do you two have wonderful conversations, infused with romance and flirtation from time to time?
It may sound very happy and sentimental, but you have to remember that the two of you are intentionally stepping into something that could only create more problems.
Do you really have to talk to her and try to make her feel like you are a better guy? Are you really a good friend here?
Does she love you too?
Most of the guys are confused here. Just because she talks well and touches you while talking or complimenting you doesn’t mean she likes you too. She can just try to be friendly. Unless she tells you that she loves you or tries to kiss or hold your hand when it’s just for the both of you, don’t let your thoughts wander into a complicated romance. Be sure of her feelings before you fall in love with her.
The Friends Code
If you try to steal a girlfriend behind your friend’s back, you break the code. Friends don’t date a friend’s girlfriend. All of your other friends can avoid you to complicate matters. Are you ready to give up all of your friends for a girl who isn’t yours in the first place?
Can you forget her
Sometimes you may be faced with a life changing situation. You might know deep down that your friend’s girlfriend is the one you want. And she may also like you very much.
Can you live with yourself so you don’t go out on her? Either way, you might end up hating your friend for dating the girl you secretly love, and your friendship might start to fall apart in a few months.
Forget her if your friend matters to you
Younger people have a misconception about friendship. They think friendships are for life. And that’s almost always wrong. You will only learn it later when you can no longer leave old friends behind. Friends come and go all the time. A few friends can stay in your life forever, but most friends end up becoming drinking buddies once a month or reunion buddies every six months.
If your friend matters to you, harden your heart and forget about his girlfriend. If you don’t care about losing your friend, and all that matters is his girlfriend, throw him in the mud and date the girl!
How to date a friend’s girlfriend
Once you’re certain that you don’t care about your friend anymore and want his girlfriend more than anything else, start moving if you know she loves you too. Preferably, try to steal a friend’s girlfriend only if he is not a good friend and if he does not treat her like a girlfriend should be treated. [Read: How do you get a girl to like you without asking her on a date? ]
But while you woo her and impress her, tell your other friends every now and then how bad your friend treats his girlfriend and how she calls you all the time crying on the phone and explains how badly she is unhappy with her boyfriend (as long as this is close to the truth). By leaving the truth to all of your friends, you can end up looking like a savior and a hero.
Don’t make an offer to her when she’s still in the relationship. If she likes you too, ask her to break up with your friend first. And once you get past that, invite her over the next time you meet your other friends. Let your friends believe that you are just trying to make her feel better after a bad breakup with your friend who was a really bad boyfriend.
The bitchy complication
You can really love your friend’s girlfriend. But you can’t come to any conclusions about her feelings without hearing her say it. Does she really love you? Don’t trust this idea too much until she breaks up with her boyfriend.
Some girls like the attention. She might be dating your friend, but after noticing that you’ve been drooling over it for a while, she might try messing around with your feelings to get your attention. Wouldn’t you want your girlfriend’s best friend to have a crush on you? It’s the same thing. Always wait for her to end the relationship. At least you’ll know that she seriously loves you.
What should you do?
The last word, if you love your friend’s girlfriend enough to lose a friend, go for it. But never ask her on a date until you’re sure you love yourself.
If you value your friend more than a fickle girl who doesn’t know what she likes, then scramble your heart and avoid her.[Read: Is the girl you like using you?]
Do you like a friend’s girlfriend? Of course you do. But now that you know the odds and the ways, do something about it. But always remember to think with a clear mind. And never jump to conclusions.